Office Flings Help Productivity
Fri 08 Feb 2008 – 13.08
Oh, that old golden bear-trap of the office romance.
Bro, she’s way out of your league.
Nowadays, we spend more and more time at work, so it seems only natural that we begin to develop romantic relationships with co-workers. Of course, this is usually discouraged, if not banned outright. Why? Potential drama, I suppose.
However, research shows that it might actually be useful. An article from the Sun tells how “the thrill of a fling ‘raised energy levels and led to better professional capacity’.”
Makes sense. I know if I could see my sweetie during the day I’d generally be in a better mood. The trouble is in arranging the romance in the first place — if you try-but-fail to court a co-worker, it could set off a serious chain of events disrupting the delicate social ecosystem of your workplace (i.e., if you ‘choose’ one of the girls, you’ve automatically blown it with the remainders. It’s called the Law of Exclusion).
You could always just wait for the christmas party, get drunk, and then if things don’t go well, blame the alcohol. No chance that could ever backfire.
posted by Scott in careers,relationships.
5 Stupid Things You Said (and what you should say instead)
Mon 26 Nov 2007 – 22.34
Man, these fellas need help. Even I would never dish the truth so forcefully as in the case of this article from the Official Dating Resource.
“Are you on the rag?”
Wow, not subtle.
posted by Scott in relationships.
What Women Want (According to Women)
Sun 25 Nov 2007 – 15.58
It’s been nearly a month since I’ve posted any interesting resources/articles, so without further ado, welcome back.
1000 Women tell Men’s Health what works and what doesn’t. The results may shock you.
19 percent say, “He doesn’t know how to touch me,” and 26 percent complain of “the same moves, every time.”
Jeez, who knew they were so dissatisfied? This article is interesting if you, like me, question yourself way more than you should. With statistics and testimony, it’s certainly makes you re-think you’re whole approach. Which I suppose in this case is a good thing.
posted by Scott in health & fitness,relationships.
Wed 10 Oct 2007 – 14.09
Art imitating life, or the other way around? It seems that more and more of NYC’s women are taking a page out of Carrie Bradshaw’s smut-filled book and doing things that most other American lasses wouldn’t dare. You know, sexual things.
The NY Post says that “Big Apple babes have among the naughtiest tastes of women in the country, according to a new survey.”
Six out of 10 admitted to having hot hookups with a guy on the first date…Four out of 10 say they have gone to a bar without wearing any underwear.”
My reason for this: NY girls are alpha — they don’t take shit, don’t play games, and are much more aggressive in all respects. Even those fresh-from-Indiana struggling actress types are experimenting more than their homegirls in other parts. It’s just the way things are here. No time for subtlties, get your hands dirty or get the fuck out!
Ok, I don’t really know. I’m writing without a net here. Read the article.
posted by Scott in relationships.
Friends with Benefits: Not too benefitial
Thu 04 Oct 2007 – 11.00
According to a recent article from The Bachelor Guy, most of us have at some point had a Friend With Benefits. But from research out of Michigan State University, those friendships usually end up being less than benefitial, often ending in a non-friendship. Occasionally, the arrangement can evolve into a relation, but that only happens 10% of the time.
it boils down to 10% evolved into a traditional relationship, about 33% stopped the sex but continued as friends, 25% ended both the sex and the friendship, and 32% continued as FWB.
The question I think we should all be asking ourselves is not “what happened to our FWB?” but rather, “what were we seeking when the whole thing kicked off?”. My first impression is that we’d all like to have it evolve into a proper relationship, but I’ve learn that isn’t always the case and some people are truly not interested. I’ve always found it to be a truly bizarre phenomenon.
Check out the article and the original article from the NY Times (or the abstract to the research paper)
posted by Scott in relationships.
Mon 27 Aug 2007 – 16.01
From Men’s Health comes a rundown of various sex positions. You know, for those readers who may find this useful.
No further comments
posted by Scott in relationships.
What Dating Teaches Us About Money
Sun 26 Aug 2007 – 19.48
Money matters and dating advice in the same post? Yup, it seems that Alan Haft is more clever than the writers of this here site. Using the eternal power of metaphor, these are nice little tid-bits for how to be a wise investor, and at the same time make sense of the dating scene. Slightly.
Pretty sound advice, and taken out of context makes the analogies that much sweeter. For example, “Cut the losers, ride the winners”. Nice choice of words.
posted by Scott in personal finance,relationships.
Sat 11 Aug 2007 – 10.59
A new study tested the relationship between grades and delayed sexual behaviour. In other words, it posed the question “are geeks virgins?”.
This is actually a really interesting article from Gene Expression about a statistical view of students at top-tier universities like MIT and Princeton, and whether or not they were virgins. There are even graphs! It doesn’t take a neuroscience major to know that those nerdlier kids have a stronger chance of being virgins, but I was actually a bit shocked by the statistics.
Virginity, by major
Some parts of the article are pretty blunt and to the point:
At Harvard 59% of the undergraduates are non-virgins, and at MIT, only a slight majority, 51%, have had intercourse. Further, only 65% of MIT graduate students have had sex.
Read the article, it’s interesting. Funny to think that while most virgins share the belief that they are the only ones left, the fact is that depending on their major, they may well be in the majority. Whoa.
posted by Scott in health & fitness,relationships.
Sex and Stress: According to the Germans
Thu 26 Jul 2007 – 10.39
In America, there is a great deal of chatter about “stress”. Oprah, and her crew have bastardised the word so that nowadays it’s the sort of thing that no one takes seriously — just have some flavoured tea and a bubble bath. And of course everyone like to talk about sex, even if they’re not having it. *cough*
Here’s a new look at the downward spiral of having rare sex and having no sex at all, and how stress fits in with it. Interesting to hear an alternative view on things from our friends in Europe.
And, to make matters worse for sexless workaholics, the extra work cuts into their would-be sex time. “Sexual frustration prevents you from being able to reduce your stress,” Beer observes. In other words, no sex leads to even less sex.
Bad news, it seems.
posted by Scott in health & fitness,relationships.
Wed 25 Jul 2007 – 15.43
Many twentysomethigns aren’t rolling in the dough, yet we still want to have a good time while out on the dating scene. From Yahoo! Personals come a list of ways to paint the town, without spending a week’s paycheck on some fancy pants dinner. Here’s a sample:
17. Go wine tasting. Most wineries charge around $5 for a tasting of five different wines — plus, you’ll get to keep the glass as a souvenir of your date.
posted by Scott in relationships.